If you are not into the hottest new Netflix series, Sex/Life, you are missing out!  Season 2 of Sex/Life is back with a bang, and it picks up where Season 1 left us with a cliffhanger.  Did Billie and Brad do the tango, or was it too late for Billie to pick up her rendezvous with the secret love of her life?  But I’m not here to release spoilers.  If you have not seen the first season, watch it before jumping into the second season.  Both seasons are full of surprises and an eye opener to many relationships that we all have been exposed to by close friends. This series dives deep into the reality of relationships and how we navigate our sex lives in today’s ever-changing world.  It is an awakening to complications of monogamy, non-monogamy and polyamory relationships. 

After watching this show, it made me think of the many conversations I had with friends.  How we look at relationships is not the same for everyone. Some would agree that we were brainwashed to believe that a monogamous relationship is what we must follow and some believing that monogamy is the only way to live.  But in this series, the show follows different couples as they grapple with understanding themselves better and navigating their romantic lives / relationships.  It explores different archetypes within relationships such as commitment, control and risk taking.  In season 2, the series shows us the importance of communication within any relationship, be it monogamous, polyamorous or otherwise.  It also taught us that it is possible to break away from traditional notions of relationships and create fulfilling lives beyond what society deems as normal.  Season 2 of Sex/Life serves as a reminder that we have the power to shape our relationships into whatever works best for us, so long as both or all parties involved are on board and willing to dive deep into honest conversations about wants and needs. 

Let me share with you some truth.  A friend of mine, who will remain nameless, is a married woman and has been for many years.  She became involved with a married man, but the secrecy was killing them.  Their love and passion for one another was very much like the characters Billie and Brad in Sex / Life. But with complications in their own relationships, they refused to leave the ones they gave their heart to.  Neither one of them were truly being honest with whom they were to themselves or to their partners.  What they had was just another example of two people who did not know how to communicate to their life partners around fluidity in love and sexuality.  Not condoning infidelity at all, but they are obviously two people that loved connecting to each other but only stayed in their existing relationships for various reasons that are not truly valid (for the kids, because they have been together for years, etc.).  But on social media, they pretend to be happy and put up a façade lifestyle for everyone to see.  They were an example of two people that had that “itch”, but it came with high risks and one of those risks were getting caught and destroying lives. In the back of my mind, I’m thinking if they just took the time to communicate with their partners and be honest about who they want to be with and who they truly are, they would save a lot of heartache and trouble.  But for some people, sneaking around feels easier than being truthful. On the flip side, there is nothing wrong with enjoying your sexuality. Women should not be vilified for exploring their sexuality while men are being praised. And this is why I highly recommend everyone to watch the series Sex/Life.  This show brings light to the idea that sometimes what you see isn’t always what’s happening behind the scenes.  It displays that it is okay for woman to be empowered and to be strong sexual beings without judgment. Women too have a strong sexual desire, just like men.

The takeaway lessons that this show exposes, use them as a reminder to be mindful when establishing a relationship, learn from other people’s experiences rather than your own….and who knows, maybe there is something in the show that will help you with your own relationships and not be ashamed to show who YOU really are as a person. Most importantly, do not be afraid or scared to walk away, to start over or to experience a new adventure.

“Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.”

Judy Blume